Lines in the Sand & Learning to Say NO!

Trauma history? Check. Service Heart? Check. Huge struggle setting healthy boundaries in PE/AT relationships? Double check! Setting boundaries and saying no is one of the biggest challenges an S-type can face. Add to that trauma triggers that have us default to fawning, freezing or fighting, and you can have a perfect storm resulting in unhealthy PE/AT relationships. Learning to say no to a prospective play offer, saying no to the community demanding too much of your time, and the ever dreaded- saying no to your D-type can be an invaluable skill. This class focuses on establishing a foundational bill of rights, recognizing when we watch our lines in the sand get washed away and how to recover and finally how to say no as a complete sentence. Especially when there is a power imbalance in your relationship. I will offer up some tricks on how to use posture, protocol and Voice to get our will across in a polite manner (and also tips on when and how to not be so polite!)