Craving Protocol, Fearing Protocol: Navigating RSD and Autism in Kink

Craving Protocol, Fearing Protocol: Navigating RSD and Autism in Kink

Routines, self-set rules, and protocols often help those with Autism and other neurodivergence navigate life. If you’re drawn to protocols and rituals in kink, you’re not alone. But what happens when the prospect of a new power dynamic feels terrifying—when fear arises that these structures might unintentionally take away what you cherish most?

Do you feel the need to “batten down the hatches” before entering a dynamic? Perhaps you’ve hesitated to use an honorific, worried it might feel awkward, or felt anxiety over even a well-negotiated act, like offering a cup of water, being rejected. These moments, driven by rejection sensitivity (RSD), often appear at the worst times.

Join us to explore the journey of (re)self-discovery as a submissive. We’ll tackle the challenges of RSD, share strategies for building secure dynamics, and focus on recognizing growth over perceived failure.

Presenter Bio:

LeatherChaplain (they/it) is a progressive monastic s-type oblate, a former Catholic now aligned with Protestantism, currently pursuing ordination within a forward-thinking Christian denomination. With a background in pastoral ministry from Phillips Theological Seminary, they are dedicated to providing spiritual care, particularly to individuals within kink and polyamorous communities. Active in the BDSM community since 2005, LeatherChaplain embraces an ethically non-monogamous lifestyle, identifying as a "Submissive to the World" on the Right-Side-of-the-Slash and as a Smart-Ass Masochist (SAM) with a hint of ethical bratting.

Specializing in deconstructing religious trauma and scripture, LeatherChaplain offers trauma-informed webinars and discussions that approach these topics with nuance and care. Beyond their ministerial pursuits, they have served in leadership roles, including with the Unitarian Universalist’s Leather and Grace Steering Committee, co-hosting an Ethically Non-Monogamous Christian social group, and moderating the Christians & BDSM group on Fetlife.

LeatherChaplain's personal journey in kink has led them to explore various taboo practices, including surveillance play, objectification, financial servitude, and head-shaving rituals, integrating these experiences with a profound commitment to structure, discipline, and service. Their path reflects a unique blend of spirituality, kink, and progressive thought, honoring both their faith and personal identity.

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